STOCKTON (CBS13) — Losing a big brother is hard but this loss is unbearable and too much for Zulema Ponce to handle.
“My brother passed away because he was in a car accident,” Ponce said.READ MORE: Fliers With Anti-Semitic Message Found Taped To Carmichael Synagogue’s Menorah
Her family is having to pick and choose who can say goodbye as stricter guidelines are leaving funeral homes no choice but to limit services to ten people or less.
“We’re stuck trying to tell the family what they can’t do, we’re stuck telling the family guidelines we have to follow,” said Jose Ayala, with the Stockton Funeral Home.
Loved ones of Francisco Magana, 24, are trying to figure out how they can even begin healing without being physically present at his funeral.
“We should all have a right to see my brother one last time,” Ponce explained, and later added, “I have a really large family and a lot of my family is really upset right now because they can’t come.”
Ayala said some families are live-streaming funeral services “where friends and family can view.”READ MORE: Fourth Stimulus Check: Will You See Another Relief Payment?
Others are choosing to wait by storing their loved one’s body, hoping time will bring change to have a proper service following the coronavirus crisis.
“We do have an option if they want to wait to see what how this pandemic turns out,” Ayala said.
He says burial grounds are also restricting families, forcing some to stay in their cars and watch services from a distance.
“Families have to remain in their vehicles until the casket is lowered and completely covered by the cemetery grounds crew,” Ayala explained.
For families like Ponce’s, grieving during this pandemic feels unfair.MORE NEWS: Caldor Fire Now 100% Contained; Large Trees May Smolder Well Into Winter
“Right now, you just need all your family support and you can’t get that. Like how do they expect you to grieve and what not when you are basically by yourself,” she said.